Treasures of Darkness

by Bethany O'Connor on May 10, 2011

~By Danielle

“I will give you the treasures of darkness, and hidden wealth of secret places, so that you may know that it is I, the LORD, the God of Israel, who calls you by your name.” -Isaiah 45:3

The day started like any other.  In the dark hours of the morning I came before my Father in prayer, lifting up my day and the many lives He might touch.  As I prayed, I began to ask for life over my clients, and over those women and children I had yet to meet who He might bring across my path through Baby Safe.  That their lives might be saved, that they would be delivered and transformed; not just “helped” but ransomed from darkness, redeemed and restored.

Why is it we’re surprised when the LORD answers our prayers?

I was on call that week, in the middle of a busy day of work and meetings when I got the call to meet a woman and her baby at the King of Kings Baptist Church where we have our safe.  I arrived to find an elderly Xhosa woman who we’ll call Noxolo, with a sweet 17 month old girl who turned out to be her granddaughter, who we’ll call Lungiswa.  As we sat in the back office Noxolo began to pour out her circumstances and ask for help.  Her daughter, Lungiswa’s mother, was living off-and-on the streets with no job, struggling with alcohol, and Lungiswa’s father was in prison.  Noxolo had become her granddaughter’s primary caregiver while continuing to provide for her own teenage son.  But recently, she’d lost her job and now the entire family was struggling just to eat.  As she ended her story she looked into my eyes and asked, “Will you take her?”

I was shocked.  Usually when a family comes to us for help placing their child is a last resort.  But as Noxolo sat before me she saw no hope, no help, no options.  So we agreed on a temporary plan where we could take her granddaughter for a period of 3 months while Baby Safe would help her try to get another job and make plans for Lungiswa’s longterm care, either with Noxolo or other family.  As we discussed plans it came out that she had another grand-baby, who she said was only weeks old and living wherever his mother chose to take him.  Her concern was great for this baby, as a previous grandchild had died, and with the mother’s current irresponsibility she feared he may as well.  Would we take this baby too?

Our Father has a sense of humor.  I could almost sense Him laughing as I and my teammates scrambled around making calls, plans and arrangements, figuring out immediate needs and potential longterm solutions.  “You wanted to change lives didn’t you?  Well, here’s a group of them!”  Miraculously we had two-and only two!-safety families able to take a child for an immediate placement over a prolonged period of time.  The following day Lungiswa was safely in the arms and home of some wonderful friends, playing with their own sweet boys.  During that time Bethany met with Noxolo to discuss her grand-baby and arrange a meeting with her daughter.

Miraculously, she showed up!  And the circle of influence only continued to expand after Bethany and I drove into Masiphumelele to meet with her.  Noxolo’s daughter, who we’ll call Patricia, was living temporarily in a friends shabeen (a bar run in their home).  As we chatted about her baby, her circumstances and alcoholism, she willing brought her little boy to us and asked for safe care for him, and help for herself to recover and work on a plan to enable her to work and care for her children herself!

And so our journey began.  It has been over a month now, and it is incredible to see the hand of the LORD in every circumstance.  So many times when struggling mothers place their babies, they continue in their previous cycles without any effort to change, and the struggle is huge.  But Patricia has shown amazing desire for change, taking initiative and rarely missing a meeting.  She has created a CV (resume’) and signed up for AA, while attending weekly meetings with both her children and their safety families.  Lungiswa is the resident princess and life of the party with her two temporary brothers and the family that welcomed her into their home and hearts.  Noxolo now has part time work, and continues to look for an even better job.  And Patricia’s precious baby boy grows in strength and health at the home of yet more friends to Baby Safe while continuing to bond with his mother during frequent visits.  It is amazing to see the recognition in one so small, and the connection the Father weaves between the hearts of a mother and child.

As we move forward I continue to pray for life, and I know the LORD answers!  I am praying for life and life abundant for Patricia, her children, and her mother Noxolo.  For reconciliation in relationships, release from addictions, provision of needs.  That Patricia would be empowered to be a strong, competent woman able to provide for and love her children, and that these children would grow up in love, freedom, and security.  I pray they all would arise and live in the destiny the Father has created them for, for they are the wealth of secret places, treasures hidden in darkness called forth into light!

*If you would like more information on becoming a safety family for Baby Safe in Cape Town, please contact Danielle at danielle@thebabysafe.org

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Death, Where Is Your Sting!

by Bethany O'Connor on April 11, 2011

Baby Safe was contacted in September to help a new mother who we will call Noxolo. She was in her mid twenties, and had fled from Johannesburg after a relationship she was in broke down. She had just given birth to twins, a girl and a boy, who were very premature, coming into the world at only 6 months. Suddenly she had found herself in Cape Town, homeless and struggling to cope with these new little babies who the hospital staff were saying didn’t have much chance.

Noxolo was adamant that they would survive and named her son Gift and her daughter Precious. The doctors were frank in their assessment; both of these twins would be lucky to survive the conditions which their early birth has given them in the over run public healthcare system.

With seemingly nowhere to go, and very little hope left, Baby Safe stepped in. We helped her think about how she could get through the christmas season and find a place to stay near the hospital so that she could continue to visit and nurse her twins. With no money, no family and no possibility of finding a job, the only option left to Noxolo was to find a place in a shelter.

We are often in contact with shelters, and spaces are hard to find with such large impoverished townships dotted all over the Cape Town area which create hundreds of desperate scenarios like this every day.
The Christmas season made it even less likely we would find a shelter that could take Noxolo but incredibly after only a few phone calls we had found a women’s shelter that was able to take her. An added bonus was that it was close enough for her to get the small minibus taxis to the hospital. To find a shelter so easily was a huge answer to prayer – It is very rare that shelters here take in girls immediately. Generally there is a long list of people waiting to get into them and they are always full. God had prepared a place for her.

Over the next few months staff members Rachel and Nomzamo would call her every few days, and visit her and the babies in the Intensive car unit, to support her and to intercede for her babies lives. I even went one day when most of our staff prayed for healing and a miracle. Little precious whimpered the whole time, she was so uncomfortable and mom was weary trying to hold her baby.

After a small operation Gift, her son made a huge recovery and became well enough that he was allowed to go to the shelter and stay with mom. Meanwhile Precious was making little sign of recovery and was moved to a specialist Red Cross children’s hospital. After a few weeks she seemed to be showing good signs when we visited, but after fuller assessments were made she was transferred to a local christian hospice called Nazareth House, the hospitals said there was nothing they could do.

The Nazareth Hospice was an incredible place. At first we were nervous at the thought of visiting a baby hospice as it had been so hard to see both mom and baby suffer. However Rachel was struck by the peace and joy that was so evident in the place. The nurses there were incredible with the children, some orphaned because of the illnesses they had and the disfigurements. But each one so beautifully nurtured and loved. Precious was the most peaceful we had ever seen her. She began to feed from a bottle for the first time and we even caught her smiling at her mom.

But only one day after this visit Noxolo was called to the Hospice and within the first few minutes, as she was holding Precious in her arms, she saw her go to be with Jesus. In the following minutes we were the first she called. As a heart broken mother poured out her tears over the phone, Rachel wept with her and shared in her pain. It was an immense privilege for Rachel & Nomzamo to spend these few months walking alongside Noxolo and Precious, discovering what it means to love as Jesus does.

On the day Precious died, to our surprise, Noxolo’s family (who she has had little to no contact or support from) arrived to grieve with her. Our team had been praying for this for weeks, in addition the day we came together to ask the Lord to take her due to her suffering, was the day before she went to be with Him.

1 Corinthians 15v54-55 says ” Then, when our dying bodies have been transformed into bodies that will never die, this Scripture with be fulfilled, death is swallowed up in the victory? O death where is your victory? O death, where is your sting?”

No longer does Precious suffer! She is fully in God’s presence. But please pray for Noxolo’s, a mom whose heart is breaking over the loss of a her Precious daughter.

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Success!

by Bethany O'Connor on March 28, 2011

“Sisterhood of Success” is a Baby Safe Job/Life Skills Training Program, in partnership with Living Way, that is being offered to some of the communities’ most down and out women – drug addicts, prostitutes, women with HIV, desperate mothers – all looking for REAL change and hope for an exciting future.

Graduation…incredible! We are so proud of the 14 women who, dressed in their Sunday best, graduated today. They completed Sisterhood of Excellence and Sisterhood of Value.

Many of these woman have never graduated from something or received a certificate. This was an exciting moment!

FUTURE BUSINESS OWNERS: Of these 14 women, 5 will go on to “Sisterhood of Dreams” and learn how to create a business plan, conduct market research, and start their own business with a micro-loan.
SOON-TO-BE EMPLOYEES: At the same time, we will continue to meet with the 9 women who are now actively seeking employment. With weekly support groups, we will empower them to look for jobs online, keep their resume/CV up-to-date, role-play for interviews and become accountable for applying for jobs.

We are excited to continue to meet with these women and do Discovery Bible Studies together!

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God’s Glory Shines Through!

by Bethany O'Connor on March 28, 2011

~By Julie

We maneuvered past broken down shacks (made of scrap wood, tin and card board), growling dogs, and the local water spicket (used for hauling water to your shack and washing clothes)…as Alli and I followed Charity through the “wet lands” in Masiphumelele.

Smiling ear to ear, she was so proud to show us her first home – a little shack, furnished with a bed, table and stove. We brought gifts for this auspicious house warming… new dishes, some food and a framed picture of her Sisterhood of Success graduation. She laughed with glee as she hugged the framed photo – so excited to see the image of herself – holding up her graduation certificate!

We are so proud of her! As a Baby Safe client, Charity decided to keep her baby boy, now almost 1 year old, and just graduated from Sisterhood of Success. She is leading Bible studies with women in her community and is working hard to find a job and provide for her two small children. Last week she was in desperate need of housing, so she scoured her neighborhood looking for a shack to rent. Baby Safe has given her a small loan for her first 2 months of rent ($42 a month), while she looks for employment.

She told us, “I prayed to God that He would take care of me – when I moved in this weekend I didn’t have any blankets, pots, or food. I was so worried! But when I got here, the landlady said I could keep the blankets, pots and extra food. God heard my prayer! He is taking care of me!” Before we left, we prayed that God would bless her new little home and protect her precious family. We asked for God’s favor and blessing on her life.

We truly see God’s glory her!

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2010-A Year In Review

by Bethany O'Connor on March 15, 2011

~By Danielle

In 2010, approximately 500 babies were dumped in Cape Town alone. A result of poverty, abuse, HIV/AIDS, hopelessness and desperation, the challenge seemed overwhelming. And yet…

Even in the midst of seemingly impossible obstacles, the LORD is bringing hope.

In 2010 Baby Safe worked with a recorded total of 238 women and children, and others that were not documented. In one year, we saw 107 women for the Termination of Pregnancy counseling at the local hospital. Of these women, 20 of them changes their minds and made a choice for life-over 1/5th!-and possibly more that went unknown.

We worked with 58 women on an individual level of some kind who made a choice to parent, and saw the birth of 38 babies.

7 babies were successfully placed in loving homes through adoption.

8 children were put in a place of safety in our network of safety families, 4 of whom were placed long term while the other 4 were able to be reunited with their family.

27 women and children experienced intervention or preventing for either difficult or even life-threatening situations, many going through the process of discipleship.

2010 saw the 1st baby left successfully in our baby safe, as 1 brave woman chose to give her child a future rather than dumping it!

These women and children came to us from every background, circumstance, race and region. We worked with countless from our local communities of Masiphumelele, Ocean View, and Fish Hoek, as well as surrounding areas like Muizenberg or even Khayelitsha. They were black, white and colored, Xhosa, Afrikaanse, Zulu, Zimbabwean, Malawian, and more. Each one different. Each one desperate.

Yet the LORD sees each of them and calls them by name. He called them to life and not death, to hope and to healing. He looks upon them and sees his children, forsaken royalty, calling them to a greater destiny. “The nations will see your righteousness, and all kings your glory; and you will be called by a new name which the mouth of the LORD will designate. You will also be a crown of beauty in the hand of the LORD, and a royal diadem in the hand of your God. It will no longer be said to you, “Forsaken,” nor to your land will it any longer be said, “Desolate”; but you will be called, “My delight is in her,” and your land, “Married”; for the LORD delights in you.” -Isaiah 62:2-4.

In 2010, 50+ babies were not dumped. 78+ mothers chose life; they made a plan and sought help instead of a rubbish heap. 27+ women and children walked a road of rescue or restoration, to prevent these circumstances from even happening. 238 lives were touched, changed, challenged.

In 2010, the statistics dropped by 238.

Now in 2011, we look ahead with expectation, that the LORD will do even more!

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A Look Inside

by Bethany O'Connor on March 3, 2011


For those of you who are curious about the looks and working of an actual baby safe which we use to receive abandoned babies, here is a staged shot for you. This is not an actual abandoned baby but an enactment that we staged for a newspaper interview. We are thankful for the publicity and that this magazine is writing a feature article which includes an interview with one of our mothers who decided to keep and parent her child. This particular safe is located in the front of a church and was the very first one to be installed in 2008. The child inside is 18 months old {premature} so you can see approximately how large the safe is in relation to her.

We are working on our 3.0 version of the baby safe wich will be deeper and taller to hold an older child. A children’s home in Heramanus, South Africa just joined the Baby Safe Network and picked up theirs from us this week!

This month we transitioned to a new system of production and we are overwhelmed by the generousity and committment from a new team member, a company called GSM Commander. They are volunteering their time and energy to lead the process of obtaining donations of all the parts we need to make baby safes, so that the cost of them will decrease dramtically with the aim of being completely free. We would like to give away atleast 50 baby safes a year to areas of need. GSM Commander are also giving their company as a base of technical assistance for our growing network of baby safes ( www.gsmcommander.com). We remain deeply thankful to the orginal creator and manufacturer of the baby safe, Luke Pederson (www.pedersenlennard.co.za).

God is reaching his mighty arm to rescue the unwanted through out Africa…

Next installs are a church in Swaziland, a community care centre in Inchanga, a All Nations mission base in Zambia, and the city centre of a region called Potcheftsroom…

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